How to choose a bar/bat mitzvah tutor
Your child needs a bar/bat mitzvah tutor for that upcoming big day. Mazal tov! (If you’re looking for an adult bat mitzvah tutor, we do that, too.)
And you want a bar/bat mitzvah tutor who can give your child personalized (and personal!) tutoring, to help them learn in a non-threatening and helpful program.
Bar/bat mitzvah tutor for NY, FL, or anywhere
You might live in New York or Florida, in a large Jewish population center, where everything, including bar/bat mitzvah lessons, is expensive. Or you might be in a small Jewish community in the Midwest or anywhere, where you don’t have a local teacher you can work with.
Jewtor is here to help. Whether you’re part of a large Jewish community or you live far from one, your son or daughter can learn…
- how to have an aliyah
- how to read Hebrew
- how to chant from the Torah
- how to chant part or all of a Haftarah
- and how to write and deliver a dvar Torah.
Jewtor – your online bar/bat mitzvah tutor
Jewtor – one-on-one personal online Jewish tutoring – can help your child, in a non-threatening, supportive learning environment. Your child will have one-on-one sessions with a gentle, supportive private Jewish studies tutor to prepare him or her for their bar or bat mitzvah.
What are the requirements for a bar/bat mitzvah?
Let’s see…you have to jump through quite a few hoops:
- Completely fluent Hebrew.
- Knowledge of how to chant Torah and Haftarah perfectly.
- Knowledge of all the Hebrew prayers and how to chant them.
- Perfect self-assurance while showing off these skills in front of a crowd.
- Perfect pitch and a beautiful voice.
The real requirements for a bar or bat mitzvah (kids, start reading here)
The requirements are to be Jewish, and to have a thirteenth birthday (some synagogues celebrate bat mitzvahs for girls at twelve.)
You automatically become bar/bat mitzvah when you have your birthday, so if you know how to have a birthday, you pass the test!
Now that we got that cleared up, let’s talk about how to mark this wonderful event. You are now considered old enough to be allowed to do certain things in synagogue services that you couldn’t do earlier. A child cannot be called up to the Torah. A bar/bat mitzvah is considered an adult (well, a beginning adult) in the Jewish religion, and is responsible for his/her religious life. There are many different ways to celebrate your Jewish coming of age. While there are children who read the entire Torah portion and the haftarah (the selection from one of the Hebrew prophets), this is not required. There are many variations on what you can do, depending also on your synagogue and rabbi.
Starting where your child is now – the Jewtor bar/bat mitzvah tutoring experience
As an experienced bar/bat mitzvah tutor, I usually start by teaching some small, simple part (like how to go up for an aliyah) and then, based on the child’s ability and interest, and how much time we have, we progress from there. You can read one short aliyah, or several aliyot, or the whole parsha. You can read haftarah (which, in some ways, is easier than Torah, because you don’t have to read from a scroll, although haftarah is generally longer.)
On weekdays, the service is shorter, has fewer and shorter readings, and fewer people come. Some people really like that. And some don’t want that at all.
What if you don’t belong to a synagogue?
Some families don’t belong to a Jewish community, and it isn’t obvious to them where they are going to celebrate their child’s bar or bat mitzvah. Sometimes, holding the event in Israel can be a meaningful solution. I can put you in touch with wonderful rabbis who can make it happen.
Bar/Bat Mitzvah Projects
Some children find it meaningful to do a mitzvah project. This might include volunteering in order to fulfill a Jewish value, or collecting money to donate to a cause. In my family, the children gave ten percent of their cash gifts to an organization they chose. This ranged from Mazon – The Jewish Response to Hunger, to NACOEJ – the North American Conference on Ethiopian Jewry, and the Israel Guide Dog Center for the Blind.
So you see that there is a smorgasbord of opportunities. Come to the table and taste a few samples!
Oh, and one more thing you should know about a bar or bat mitzvah: you really won’t be judged on your musical ability.
Wherever you are in the world, we do our bar mitzvah and bat mitzvah tutoring online or over the phone. Jewish tutoring customized to your needs is now available in the convenience of your home or office!